The Romantic Gesture

One of your coworkers gets a bouquet of flowers delivered to her desk.
Your best friend gets engaged at the tippity-top of a Ferris Wheel.
A young man asks your husband permission to date your daughter.
You come home to a clean house and dinner waiting on the table.
You find a love letter between the pages of a library book.
You watch a movie where a man serenades the woman he loves.
Your grandparents slow dance at your cousin’s wedding.
Everybody has their own idea of what’s romantic and what’s not. Our hearts respond to different things.
Let’s Talk: What makes a gesture romantic? What romantic gestures do you love? What’s the most romantic thing you’ve either experienced or witnessed?


14 thoughts on “The Romantic Gesture

  1. Kelley

    Hi there! Just found your blog through the 'author bios' post on Rachelle Gardner's blog. I graduated from UW Madison too!

    I don't even remember what movie its from, but the girl is talking about what she thinks would be the sweetest gesture from a guy. She says,

    "For him to give me flowers, just because its Wednesday."

    Thought that was just so cute.

  2. Jennifer K. Hale

    It's funny- what I used to think was SO romantic- the big gestures- are still great, but not the most romantic anymore. What's romantic to me now is when he's thoughtful– like if he takes the boys ALL DAY to give me writing time, or when I come home and the dishes are done or the laundry is folded. I still love big gestures, but the little things keep that spark alive. πŸ™‚ And it might sound silly, but I love it when he sits with his arm around me at church, or holds my hand when we walk through a parking lot. That kind of stuff makes me all squishy. πŸ™‚

  3. Claudia

    The most romantic gesture I saw happened to a friend of mine, Sherri.

    She and I belong to a professional organization. Sherri was being installed as our President. Only members are allowed at this meeting. Her husband, Fred, went out and got her a dozen roses. He waited until the end of the meeting to present them to her.

    We all fell in love with Fred that night!

  4. Jessica R. Patch

    Most romantic gesture: my hub surprised me by writing and singing a song to me on our wedding day! πŸ™‚

  5. Katie Ganshert

    I LOVE reading these stories! I'm so bummed this post isn't making it to people's dashboards.

    Paul – that is seriously so incredibly sweet.

    It seems like the most romantic gestures are the simple ones…the sporadic, spur-of-the-moment ones.

    And Jeanette – oh goodness, girl, I'm with you. So many stupid, stupid things come out of my mouth. My husband is so quick to forgive. πŸ™‚

  6. Jeanette Levellie

    I love gestures that show my husband is thinking of me–when he brought me pink roses the day our daughter was born, when he buys me my favorite candy, when he gets up at 4:30 a.m. to grind coffee beans and brings me a cup in bed.

    But the most romantic is how he forgives me again and again for foolish, stupid, thoughtless things I do or say. Amazes me. See why I say he's my hero?

  7. Terri Tiffany

    oh–such a good question. I think when my husband cuts out a paper heart and says "I love you," that way instead of buying a card.

  8. Paul Anthony Shortt

    Romantic is when my wife has a day off work and surprises me by picking me up from my office. Or makes me a cup of tea when I'm not well.

    She would say it's when she wakes up in the night with a leg cramp and I start massaging it out without saying a word.

    Romantic is the little things too. πŸ™‚

  9. Heather Sunseri

    What Lucille wrote above trumps anything I was about to write. That story should be in a book.

  10. Lori Benton

    I married at 18. When I was 30 I had cancer. My treatment lasted through the summer, including our 12th anniversary. Over the years I'd grown very enamored with all things Celtic, music, designs (like the intricate Celtic knot work), themes in my own writing. And as much as I loved the wedding rings I chose as an 18 year old, the raised stone was forever snagging my long hair.

    Well, thanks to chemo I didn't have any hair at all when our 12th anniversary rolled around that August. I awakened that day before my husband and made my sleepy way out to the living room where my computer lives, and found the entire room strung in bright orange string, woven in and out, from floor to ceiling and corner to corner. I followed the string, and at the very end was a box. Inside the box was a simple gold ring, the band made up of a beautiful Celtic knot work design, along with a note from my husband.

    That was half our marriage ago. I still wear the ring. It was romantic to me because it was a total surprise (and he's not known for springing surprises), and the ring was so perfectly right for me. It reflected the fact that my husband understood the person I had become during 12 years of marriage, and it's also a symbol of his care for me during that difficult season of our lives.

  11. Lacie Nezbeth

    I didn't get your blog update in my blogger list…almost missed you today. Oops!

    Romantic gestures…okay, I have one. The other night, hubby gave all three of the kiddos a bath and I didn't have to do anything. It was great!

    Probably not what you were looking for but man did I feel romanced! LOL

  12. Katie Ganshert

    Oh my goodness, Lucille – that seriously made my heart melt! Quite possibly one of the sweetest things I've ever heard. πŸ™‚

  13. Lucille Zimmerman

    Hi Katie,

    The most romantic thing my husband ever did was this:

    On a night with shooting stars he woke me up at 3 a.m. He held my robe with outstretched hands and said, "Shhhh, put this on and come outside." I had no idea what was going on.

    He had blankets and chairs arranged on the deck and we sat there in silence, gazing.

    I don't think he meant for it to be romantic but it was. I think he was awake worrying about work and happened to remember it was a shooting-star-night.

    What made it romantic is that he thought of me. He knew I would enjoy it. And I think because it was serendipitous…not planned.

    Lucille Zimmerman

  14. MaryC

    Good morning, Katie. I love gestures that might not sound terribly romantic – like going with me to take the dog for a walk even though he's dead tired.

    The most "traditional" romantic gesture that comes to mind was him bringing me a bouquet of roses when I finished my first manuscript.


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