I was sitting in bed the other day, talking to hubby. Here’s the gist of our conversation.
I was sitting in bed the other day, talking to hubby. Here’s the gist of our conversation.
If you want to go places in this business, gone are the days where you can do it without networking. Okay, okay…there’s the one or two rare exceptions. But let’s lump ourselves with the majority and accept the fact that networking is necessary. Especially for the writer seeking publication.
One of the biggest benefits I’ve experienced from networking is the genuine relationships I’ve formed in the process.
Rachelle called me with the good news on October 29th. I didn’t get to sign the contract until January 20th. I thought that wait would be easy-peasy. After all, I had a book deal! And the first month it was….but then the doubt crept in and a profound realization hit.
I know this analogy has been beaten to death, but let me just say, there are SO many similarities between pregnancy and writing for publication. Here’s what getting the call and waiting for the contract feels like: it feels like the first trimester. You get the positive pregnancy test and you jump up and down and go crazy, but you can’t really tell anyone yet (which is killing you) AND you get these paranoid thoughts. All the worry you expended over not getting pregnant transfers to…what if I lose the baby?
Same thing happened with this.
I knew I was getting published…but I couldn’t announce it yet and a small, hidden part of me (this part that I couldn’t even voice out loud) worried that something would go wrong and the contract wouldn’t come. The wait went from easy-peasy to worry-laden. In which I had to hit my knees and surrender all over again.
And that’s when realization hit.
The long waits and the insecurities and those paranoid thoughts NEVER end. Seriously. They may ebb and flow, depending on where you’re at in the journey, but they don’t go away. It’s not like you get the contract and everything’s all sunshine and roses. The waiting and worry doesn’t go away, it just transfers. There will always be something to worry about and something to wait for.
So my question to you is: Can you handle that? Are you prepared for it? Or are you living under the misconception that once you get to a certain point, all that yucky stuff will go away? And what do you do to make the waiting easier?
Me? In a weird way, I kind of like it. My prayer is always: Lord, keep me on my knees. I’m glad to be in an industry where that’s pretty much a guarantee.