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Control Issues

There are things writers cannot control when it comes to getting published.  

Such as….

  • When an editor or an agent reads our stuff 
  • The mood of the agent or the editor when they read our stuff
  • The other books that are being pitched at the pub board meeting
  • What’s hot and what’s not in the industry
  • The background, personal preferences, and life experiences editors and agents bring with them to the story

This lack of control isn’t something that ends once we get a book deal. It carries over AFTER publication.

What can’t a published author control?

  • Sales. Yes, there are things we (and our publisher) can do to spread the word and pique interest. But ultimately, we can’t force anyone to buy our book. 
  • Which genre is hot at the time of our release
  • Where our books get placed in stores
  • What stores carry our books
  • Publicity. We can pitch stuff to various media outlets. Our publicist can do the same. But that doesn’t mean anyone will show interest.
  • The backgrounds, personal preferences, and life experiences each reader brings to our book, all of which influence their reaction to it. This is exactly why the very same book can elicit one star reviews and five star reviews

I think there’s this very tempting trap we can fall into as writers.

And that is this….

It’s up to us. The success of our book is in our hands. 

If it succeeds, we must have done something right.

If it fails…. 

We must not have done enough.

As if more blog posts or more Facebook friends or more Tweets or more clever pins on Pinterest or more book signings or more giveaways would have translated into more sales.

In a post titled, Does Social Media Really Help? historical romance author, Jody Hedlund, said this:

“What we do in our limited scope on twitter or blogging is merely a blip in the wide-world of publication—especially with so many other writers on social media all scrambling to be heard.”

It reminds me of something Dan Walsh said at the ACFW conference last year.

We can bring our five loaves and our two fish to the table. But at the end of the day, God decides what He’s going to multiply

So bring your fives loaves and your two fish.

Write the VERY best story you can write. Take advantage of the marketing opportunities that come your way. And then?

Find a way to let the rest go.

Don’t let rejections or sales figures or not finaling in a contest steal your passion and your joy.

Next time you find yourself stressing over things outside of your control, step away from the computer. Kiss your spouse. Hug somebody you love. Wrestle and laugh with your children. Smile. Be a blessing. Write from your gut. Praise God for all the good stuff. And don’t lose track of what matters.

God. Family. Friends. Writing stories that touch lives.

Whether it’s ten or ten thousand.

Let’s Talk: Do you let yourself get caught up in things outside of your control?

Jill Kemerer addressed things writers can and can’t control is a very lovely post titled, Stamina

Friday 3 C’s

B-man’s first time wading in the creek 

Cares:
Our adoption agency hosted a webinar last night after their most recent trip to the Congo. 

One of our biggest concerns about adoption has been corruption, which sadly, is a very real problem in the international adoption world. Especially Africa. We’ve been on our knees about it. We’ve researched like crazy. We even swallowed a $500 application fee early in the process when we started feeling uneasy about the first agency we pursued.

We already felt confident in our agency, but last night’s webinar gave us even more peace and confidence. They are committed to the children and they are committed to the country. Their first priority is not the families who are adopting, it’s the orphans in the DRC. This is a great thing. 

But with the greatness brings an expanding time frame. Due diligence takes time. Investigating each orphanage and ensuring that each child is, in fact, a true orphan, takes time. So while I’m ready to be a mother to one of these precious little ones RIGHT NOW, we’re still looking at a year and a half.

Hopefully, we’ll get a referral sometime this fall. From there, it’ll be about ten months before court. And another 3-4 until travel. 

Waiting is not easy. But it’s worth it.

Concerns:
The conditions in these orphanages are heartbreaking. It’s not because the caretakers don’t care. It’s simply because the resources aren’t there. Kids are starving and kids are sick and kids are dying. 

Which makes me think of this video (Warning….don’t watch unless you’re prepared to be very convicted. The hard stuff starts at the 1:40 mark. My husband agrees. He would claw through a brick wall with his bare hands too).

Celebrations:
It’s Friday. Jesus is my savior. He’s set me free. I love writing. I’m almost done with my revisions on Wishing on Willows. I love my family and my son and my dog. God is holding our hands as we travel this adoption journey.  

I received some very fun emails this week from readers. Thank you, dear readers! For taking the time to brighten my day in such an encouraging way.

Let’s Talk: What are your cares, concerns, and celebrations this week?